For My Love: We’re 20 Years In!

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Random Thursday Thoughts

No ranting from me today. I’m taking a gentler approach these days. I’m even going to resist saying, “I told you so.” Oops, I just said it, didn’t I? The news that Trump and his administration have rescinded protections put in place by the Obama administration regarding transgender students and their right to use the bathroom of their choice saddens me. Concerns me. Is a step backward. But it doesn’t surprise me. And just means that we still have to fight. That I will continue to “have an agenda” and be “hateful.” And any and all other things I’ve been accused of. Conversation between Jaten and his new boss after Jaten’s driver’s license revealed the gender marker “female”:...

The Kids Take a Trip of Their Own

For any readers still following along with us here at Barney Life, this is for you: Thank you!!! This post is for and about my kids. My kids, who, in spite of me and my raging personal anxiety, decided last fall to go on a road trip to Arizona. On their own. The backstory is that Taye loves Troye Sivan and wanted to go to a concert. She discovered that the nearest concert was in Phoenix. The kids have grown up going on lots of road trips, so they decided to hit the road and go the concert. Dominique, Jaten’s girlfriend, also went with them. She’s an awesome person and I’m grateful to know her and grateful that Jaten has her in his life. The kids planned everything themselves. They budgeted. They saved their money. They took care of each other....

Wherein I Need To Write Something Because Writing Makes Me Feel Better

I’m stunned. For more reasons than just the obvious one. Sure, I am completely taken aback that a Trump presidency is actually going to happen. If I’m being totally honest, though, watching his path over the last year or more held way more cumulative surprises than this one big surprise. His rise has dumbfounded me and many others. The divide in this country is so much bigger than I knew. Last night as I watched the results come in, I just felt shocked, numb, and sad. Today, I feel much the same. What I don’t feel is hatred. What I am stunned by is the reaction to this win. I think all of us need to take a step back, take a deep breath, cry if you need to, scream if you need to, and then get back in the game. Now is not the time to spew hatred at anyone who voted...

I Don’t Give a Damn About My Bad Reputation

I really don’t. It confuses me that people are surprised by my passion regarding LGBTQ issues. You don’t have to be passionate about them. That’s cool. I am, though. And I am because I want this world to be a better place for my kids AND yours. Latest story: my kid’s fear of going public at work about the fact that he is transgender because of fear of severe discrimination. And for what? Really? How does this affect anyone besides himself? Truly. Ridiculous. Do you know what else is ridiculous? I think we should talk about why there is no “straight pride.” It seems incredibly self explanatory to me, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned in my 40 (yikes) years on this earth, not everyone thinks like me. Gasp! Are you-as an aside, I’m speaking to the cis-gender (if...